Libido & Menstruation
Between pushing out babies with agonizing pain and earning $.81 for every dollar a man makes, having a vagina can be pretty cool. But did you know that the menstrual cycles that come with our baby maker can also influence bigger, better orgasms that help with bodily ailments? Follow me, let’s take a walk.
Hormone Levels & Masturbation
Throughout the stages of your menstrual cycle, hormone levels rise and fall in a way that can be used to your masturbatory advantage. When certain hormone levels are higher–such as estrogen and LH (luteinizing hormone)–they can directly influence libido and overall sensation. This combination of rising hormone levels increases the vaginal secretions around or during ovulation, meaning more natural lubrication and pleasurable penetration. Adversely, the drop in estrogen levels during or after your period can leave you with a muted sexual desire and vaginal dryness.
Research has shown that around the time of ovulation is the most favorable for experiencing those earth-shattering, oh my god, oh my god orgasms. Not only is there more blood flow to the genital region during this time, but the cervix is also in the most “comfortable” position, meaning less discomfort during sex. Woohoo!
The Perks of Masturbating on Your Period
While the pleasure that comes with an orgasm is reward enough, masturbating on your period can also alleviate some of the discomforts that come with your monthly flow. Firstly, an orgasm releases a rush of dopamine and serotonin, which act as natural pain relievers and can relieve period-related headaches, cramps, and back pain. Along with those chemicals, orgasms also release oxytocin and prolactin, which act as natural sedatives and can help give you a better night’s rest. And for the waking hours, the endorphins released during orgasms can also lead to an overall improved mood when PMS may get the best of you.
Okay, You Got Me. Now What?
So you’ve decided to do the damn thing, now what about the mess? Our actions have consequences, after all–but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be able to enjoy yourself while your vagina is doing her thing. That being said, here are some ways to spare your bedspread.
Where To Do It
The number one way to avoid spillage is to have your fun in the shower/bath, but this comes with its own unforeseen issues: water will wash away your body’s natural lubrication. So, remember to squeeze in a lube bottle between your shampoo and conditioners to help ease friction, and watch your footing because things can get slippery!
What About Period Products?
If you’re keeping things in the bedroom, consider leaving in your menstrual cup or tampon and focusing on clitoral stimulation. Some women find that leaving a menstrual cup in actually applies satisfying pressure to their G-spot while masturbating and can be left in for some light penetrative action (since they sit high up in the body). Just remember that tampons must be removed before any penetration.
Another tip is to lay down a towel before doing the deed or wearing panties you don’t mind staining and pleasuring yourself through the cotton barrier. And to save your toys from looking like horror movie props? Try putting a condom over dildos and vibrators for a quick, easy post-orgasm clean-up.
How to Boost Libido
Okay, now we have you considering doing the deed while menstruating; let’s talk about libido! When Aunt Flo comes to town, it's not uncommon for your libido to take a little dip. But fear not because there are ways to rev up your desire and make that time of the month a little more exciting in the bedroom. Here's how to boost your libido during menstruation:
- Mindfulness and Relaxation: Practice mindfulness techniques, deep breathing, or meditation to reduce stress and anxiety, which can enhance your overall sense of well-being and, in turn, boost libido.
- Embrace the Mood Lighting: Dim the lights, light some candles, and create a cozy, sensual atmosphere. Mood lighting can help you feel more relaxed and in the mood for intimacy.
- Communication is Key: Talk to your partner about your desires and concerns. Open communication can help you understand each other's needs and create a supportive and enjoyable experience.
- Explore Non-Penetrative Play: Remember, sex doesn't always have to involve penetration. Engage in other forms of intimate touch, such as cuddling, kissing, or sensual massages.
- Pamper Yourself: Treat yourself to a luxurious bath or shower to help you feel more relaxed and in tune with your body.
- Try Gentle Exercise: Light exercises like yoga or stretching can improve blood flow, reduce cramps, and release endorphins, all of which can increase your desire for some physical connection.
- Experiment with Lube: Vaginal dryness can be a common issue during menstruation. Invest in a good water-based lubricant to make any sexual activity more comfortable and pleasurable.
- Take Your Supplements: Boost your libido from within! Supplements that include maca root, fenugreek, ginseng, L-arginine, or Zinc all enhance those sexy feelings. The Desire patch from The Good Patch is basically a sticker that does all the work for you. Stick it on and go!
Remember, it's perfectly natural for your libido to ebb and flow throughout your menstrual cycle. Don't be too hard on yourself, and explore these tips to discover what works best for you.
The moral of the story is that not only are there no wrong times to masturbate, but there are actually better times to do it if you know your body. Figuring out what time of your cycle leads to your best orgasms is a fun and informative way to become in tune with the ebbs and flows of your cycle and a nice excuse to break out your buzzing best friend more and more often. And don’t let your flow get you down: now you have tips on how to have a fun time with minimal clean-up. Get it, girl!